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Abbie Brett's avatar

Couldn’t agree more Maja. I’ve always been a bit of a romantic, but it means I’ve developed this all in/all out dichotomy with relationships to protect myself after years of heartbreak. This year I’m trying to let my guard down reminding myself of the beauty in all of the experiences to be had in entangling lives in some way of another with another human. It’s sad to think of how many I’ve lost to fear, so thank you for reminding me of this importance for the self, beyond the promise of companionship ❤️‍🔥

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pranab's avatar

Reminds me as well -- even in the case of a "successful relationship", one that lasts for decades, heartbreak is inevitable! Each must regularly grieve the loss of who the other once to make space for what the relationship now is

Heartbreak is a beautiful skill

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Abbie Brett's avatar

“Heartbreak is a beautiful skill” - love this! Normalise strengthening both love & heartbreak like a muscle

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Eric's avatar

Another lovely piece Maja. I must say though, my crushes seem to have revolved around what I wasn’t willing to accept in myself. It took a long time to learn that though. And I’m glad I did!

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Tim's avatar

you're on a roll. keep going!!

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Heidi D.'s avatar

Beautifully written - couldn’t agree more! I love the part “

It takes real effort to keep the heart soft in a world that tells us to harden. “ I relate to that so much.!

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Abby's avatar

Such a beautiful read, I’m sure I’ll turn back to this often

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el's avatar

I've had so many crushes throught

out my short life, they have all ended in heartbreak and regret due to my inability to express my feelings. But, before the heartbreak there were memories of giddiness, memories of talking to my crush for hours on end, memories of us sitting together, and his freckles. I really do agree that yearning does something special for the soul...I only wish to experience the things you described even the heartbreak.

I have a new mystery crush after years of not having a crush or romantic interest in anyone, and now all I want to do is meet and get to know that person. I am always hoping to see them, even if it's just for a millisecond. Everyone yearn on.

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Mimi's avatar

I wrote something so eerily similar to this but more personal about love it’s making me emotional to think that there are people out there that see love the same way I do, such a universal experience even when it feels like only you know the depths of your emotions and feelings. Thanks for this!

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Thomas del Vasto's avatar

Well said. Emotions, following the heart, are crucial things we miss in the modern age. Love first and foremost.

Unless you're married ofc!

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Abe's avatar

Perfect timing haha, great post and keen to look into those tracks!

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